One thing that C.S. Lewis said in his book Mere Christianity is that there are two things he knows about humans. First, that they are tormented by the belief that they ought to be living by some sort of moral code, and secondly, that they do not live by said moral code. It is an interesting thought and in one sense related to the moral code is the fact that we willingly engage in things that not only detract from the lives of people around us but from our own lives.
I recently watched a video by Tai Lopez where he talked about the importance of never engaging in a lose-lose situation. Always look for win-win situations or at least win-lose. There is no benefit to engaging in a lose-lose situation whether it’s a fist fight or a word of criticism meant maliciously it is of no benefit or value to you or the other party involved, so avoid them at all cost. Tai talked about even taking the small amount of time and energy to click the thumbs down sign on a You Tube video definitely is a lose for the maker of the video but what for you? You get a negative emotion from telling the video producer and the world that you don’t like the video and that you’re a negative person who doesn’t have the emotional and self-awareness to simply use your time and energy in search of something better suited for you and your circumstances. Are those the types of thoughts, feelings and emotions you want to communicate to yourself and others? I sure hope not because it’s a path leading to more negativity and useless productivity.
The actual activities we engage in are only a reflection of our emotional and intellectual state of being. Just like the messages others offer to us are only a reflection of themselves. When someone compliments you on something, it doesn’t really say anything about you other than that you and the person giving the compliment have a similar appreciation for something, but the compliment is only a reflection of the giver, or a bit of information about them being given to you. For this reason it’s nice to get feedback about specific things we are putting out to the world so we can continue, adjust or discontinue the product, but there isn’t any use for intentional negativity. The lack of positive feedback is typically enough feedback about how the general population feels about any given product or idea.
Now, you will never be able to stop another person from engaging in negative behavior or lose-lose engagements but you can make sure you never do, and that is the main point of this post. Never, ever, ever find yourself engaging in a lose-lose situation, it is not worth your time, energy or wellbeing.
I recently watched a documentary about savants and their incredible abilities to recall information or perform outrageous mathematical equations. One theory about the typical human brain though, is that we trim specific pieces of unneeded data in order to function well in a wide variety of situations. Like the changing environments of waking up at home, navigating traffic in bad weather, performing well at work, socializing with peers, raising children and so on. This idea may play a major part in what some call the law of attraction. What we think about is what we attract, or could it be, what we think about, meditate about and work toward is the information our brains register as needed and therefor is not trimmed away, and it becomes much more apparent to us that the things we want are increased, improved and more present? Whether the law of attraction really is a law of the universe or a game within our own brains I highly recommend filling your brain with positivity. It has been proven time and time again that those who focus on positivity feel positive. Those who focus on their blessings feel happy and blessed and those who feel gratitude and full of love are kinder to others. Simply put, it is not worth it in any way to engage in lose-lose situations. Look for positivity always, and in return you will receive positivity.
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